Thursday, May 22, 2008

Jonathan, part 1

Oh what a glorious day it was when I held my very own three day old baby for the first time! Born of another, yet entrenched in my heart for all time and eternity--my precious, precious son. He made me a Mommie, and fulfilled a deep desire of my heart.

Jonathan--"YAHWEH has given”--
a gift from God

When I learned that single people could adopt in Oregon, I looked into it. I believe each step was ordained by God, as I began to make inquiries. I had an appointment for inquiry and was told a baby was to be born in three months. This baby had a placement arranged, but the prospective adoptive father had dropped dead from a heart attack, and understandably the wife backed out of the contract. The birth mother was most anxious to have a secured placement for her baby and had given the doctor forty eight hours to find another placement or she would go elsewhere. This baby was offered to me. I was floored, as I expected to wait several months or years before a baby became available. I asked her for six hours before I gave her an answer.

I fled to my parent’s home. Only Mom was home and I told her about the offer. We dropped to our knees at the living room couch and prayed about this momentous decision. After we concluded, we stood up and looked at one another and said in unison, that we felt it was a gift from the Lord and I should go forward with it. So, I did....and never looked back.
The early years were so fun and so much work! Jonathan was a sweet baby, who smiled, laughed, and didn’t know a stranger. He loved everyone and was well-loved in return.


Early on he developed a love for music--as a toddler he was in constant rhythm whenever music was playing. A busy, inquisitive child, he knew all of the neighbors by name and if he was let out, he visited them all regularly. They all gave him goodies and I threatened to put a bib on him that said, “please don’t feed this child!”

In my journal during these preschool years, I wrote in 1966, “Jonathan is now seventeen months old and oh! so busy! He is on the go every waking minute! What a thrill it has been to watch him grow and develop. He is a continual joy to my heart.” and in another entry in 1967, “My children continue to be a source of never ending joy to me. As I look into their sweet faces, I never cease to marvel at the goodness of the Lord in giving them to me. I’m sure Jonathan is the busiest two year old living! He talks continually, leads us all a merry chase and is the pet of the house. as I tuck him in nightly, my heart is thrilled anew that the Lord gave me this wee boy as my very own to nurture and love.”


During his second summer, I was on the staff at the Cannon Beach Conference Center. He knew every staff person by name that summer, and on his second birthday, he sang Jesus Love Me to a crowd of two hundred in the dining room and never missed a word or a beat! That was the biggest birthday party of his life!

By the time he was three, he was “preaching” to us. He would sit everyone down, pass out Bibles or hymnbooks to all, and grab a plant stand for his pulpit and began his monolog. The neighbors used to drop by just to see and hear him “play church”.

third birthay

Little did we know what his fourth year was to bring.
This robust child had many difficult months ahead.

When Jon was four he had Scarlet Fever. Altho it was treated, he was left with lethargy, a daily fever, a very abnormal sed. rate, and an enlarged spleen. After several months of testing, I received a call at school from our pediatrician and he told me his blood work revealed abnormalities which could be leukemia. He said we would repeat the tests in one week, and if they were the same, the testing would go further.

This was quite a bomb to be dropped in the middle of the school day. I went to the teacher’s bathroom, dropped to my knees in front of the toilet, and wept and cried and fought one of the greatest battles of my life, as I finally surrendered this beautiful, lovely little child of mine to the Lord for His will to be done with this little life. I don’t know how I got through the rest of the school day.


Everyone prayed during that week before the next tests were to be done. They were done and returned. They showed nothing wrong!! I believe we had a miracle. The doctor thinks the first lab was in error. Whatever it was, my heart rejoiced mightily, and I was full of thanksgiving to the Lord for His goodness and His kindness in sparing my sweet, sweet boy.

Eventually we received a diagnosis of Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis which was to plague him off and on through his teens, but burned itself out by the time he entered his twenties. Thankfully, he had no joint changes, altho he had some very painful flare-ups over the years. He still has to be careful of strep infections and is always medicated if one occurs, for prevention of onset of new symptoms.

When Jon was born I had a fifteen year old foster daughter. who had been with me for about a year. They became fast friends. He adored her and she adored him. When he was four, she married.



After the wedding practice, as I was putting him to bed, he said to me, “Tomorrow is for ‘weal?” I said yes and then he said, “Will Sissie still live here with us?” I had explained this to him before, but reality set in that night, I think. I told him no she wouldn’t, but would have a new home with Mike. He sat up in bed, and said, “Allwite then...I’m marrying her!!” He did love his “sissy”..and missed her terribly when she was gone, altho we saw them often.

We got through that fourth year. It was a long year with many tears, prayers, and questions. I praised God as we reached a healthy fifth birthday!!




...to be continued in future posts

12 comments:

Kim said...

Can't wait to hear the rest! Thanks for sharing. It touched this adoptive mom's heart very much...there's no way to really explain the joy till you've been there.

Mary Isabella said...

I read every single word and cannot wait to read the rest of the story. Happy Friday to you....Mary

Blondie ~ Vintage Primitives said...

Thank YOU for writing this. I am going to be back for more. What a beautiful gift from the Lord!
Blondie

Anonymous said...

TALK ABOUT MEMOIR!!

Sweet pictures of Jon...beginning with the crib, and the darling little boy B-day cakes..How about including a pic of Mom and baby, or Mom, Grandmom and baby?

Els

a portland granny said...

Elsie-there are no pictures of me with the kids. I had a phobia about having pictures taken--now that I am old and white-haired I have my pictures taken all the time.--go figure!
Joan

Patty said...

Beautiful story, Joan.
I can't wait to hear more!

Blessings,
Patty

sister sheri said...

Joan - what a beautiful story of God's love! My sissie was born on 7/9/65! Looking forward to "The Rest of the Story"!

Margie said...

What a wonderful story. As an adoptee myself and a Birthmom I loved the story.. I am so ready to read more!!! Keep on writing.

Ruthie said...

I loved reading about your son. What a special gift for you and for him.
Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

Wow! What a nice project.
Thank you.
Jon

Twinmommy2boys said...

That was beautiful. I found you through a comment on Amazing Trips. I was intrigued simply because all the blogs I read are written from the younger person's point of view. This post touched me and as I read the part were you struggled in the bathroom to turn your son over to God I began to weep. My twin boys were born 10 weeks early. I distinctly remember being so afraid, but doing the only thing I knew to do and that was to turn them over to God. So hard to do especially when I hadn't really gotten to know them yet. Anyway sorry for the long comment. I will be back for another visit soon.

Amy said...

Dear Joan, I haven't had time to sit at the computer here lately so I'm catching up on your blog. This is so incredibly sweet. I can't wait to hear more about Jonathan. I enjoyed reading more about your mom and LOVE learning about the Masche family. That is amazing. They are so cute.
Things have been busy but I'm counting down the days! We just bought tickets to Peru for October so that will be SO wonderful!!!!!!
Hope you're feeling well!
May blessings to you!
Love,
Amy